Virtue… It’s Rare


Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far beyond rubies. Proverbs 31:10

Good things can be found, but rare things…well,  you’ll have to do a little digging. There are about 3.7 billion females in the world, that’s 49.6% of the population. So it’s easy to find a woman. But a woman of  Virtue…? Who can find this rare creature? She is said to be more precious than diamonds, which depending on how many carats you have, it can be priced at $10,000 per carat. She is far more precious than Rubies, because of the nature of color, can be priced at $15,000 per carat. And my favorite, the Pearl,  a strand can be sold for $100,000. But a virtuous woman…priceless! She has a value beyond price! 

Why Is Virtue So High Priced

Diamonds, Rubies, and Pearls, Oh My! It’s not the price that amazes me, but the formation of these jewels are astonishing. All formed in hiding. Each of these jewels can stand on its own, sustaining their value, and depending on its owner,  can remain of value if taken care of properly. But imagine a woman placed in the hands of God. Her value increases the longer she stays hidden in Him. The more she learns to know him, the more she learns herself, and begins to develop this characteristic.

Virtue IS Attainable 

Women run from this virtue because they mistake it with perfection. Not one of us is perfect…but God is! When we hide in him, not cowardly, but courageously…we are perfectly formed. 

When you’re hidden in Christ it’s hard to be devalued, because you know who you are. You know you are his. 

 You’re a Masterpiece formed perfectly by him, able to shine and do all he’s created you for. 

For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. Ephesians 2:10

When you are hidden in Christ your life conforms to moral and right living; all because you are growing to be more and more like Him. So when you come out of hiding…like any valuable jewel…you cannot go unnoticed. 

What Keeps us from Virtue? 

One word… COMMON. People don’t find value in being themselves anymore. God made us to be rare, and to be ourselves.  They’d rather be common. So, they take another route: finding themselves in magazines, TV drama, work, Google, or social media. None of this lasts. You lose your value being someone else, or being something outside of who God intended you to be. The most successful people are those who are themselves. Do the research. No one likes a copy cat. 

Shine

Shine baby shine. You really were made to shine. There’s nothing dim about Virtue. It is brilliant! Virtue is excellent…it excels! It cause your head to be held high. Once you are formed you’ll be displayed beautifully for all the world to behold. Graced. Marveled. Admired. You will shine. And because you’re virtuous you’ll remain humble, modest, bold and beautiful.

Never run from Virtue again. Understand that it is attainable through the working of a great God who sees you, knows you, and lives you! 

“A” is for Angry

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I laughed as I blurted out `”A” is for Angry!` I meant every bit of it too! It just sounded so funny when I said it. Probably because I spoke something I had internalized for quite some time. I’ve been studying my personality, and the man teaching told the audience to say an alliterative adjective that describes how you feel and starts with the same letter as your name…without thinking. So, without thinking, and from the abundance of my heart I yelled out, “A” is for Angry 😡

This isn’t an attempt to collect self pity or attention from you, but when I first started  this blog I told you that this journey we are on won’t always be easy, but always honest. So as my sister, I’m letting you know this is where I am. Not at people, not at God… Its just that this particular season is aggravating and very aggressive. Built and pinned up emotions flaring everywhere, and people only cause the flames to increase, unknowingly, so I try to stay clear, which is nearly impossible, being a minister and all. This is probably one of the reasons God moved me away from all I know to be alone with Him. This season is wrecking me and I can’t win unless I participate in it. It’s something I have to go through, not just get over it.

As I mentioned above, I’ve been studying my personality and as a person with a phlegmatic/melancholy personality, I need to know what the heck is going on. The unknown is not a unfamiliar place for me but it is a place I can honestly say that I hate. Because I desire to allow God to lead my life and direct me, I’m pretty much aware of the “what” but not the “why”. Not fun! So this season I’m in is ticking me off. If you were a fly on the wall, you’d think this sistah is mad. I am, and I have the slightest idea of what to do but be mad.

This isn’t a bad thing. The Bible tells us

In your anger sin not. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

God knows that His children get angry. So I do my best to go to the Lord with every issue that arises. I have issues.  And sitting at the root of all my issues is Anger. It just now rising up to the surface. Oh, it’s been there. I was just too afraid to say it.  For example: right now I’m struggling with the fact that I don’t know my life’s purpose. Yes, I serve in the church, I have a blog, I’m in school, live in a nice city,  I’ve made an album… Blah, Blah, Blah…deep inside me i can’t help but think that there’s more. I feel like a human “doing”, not a human”being”.  It angers me that I know I have so much more in me but can’t tap into it. I feel like a slave. Once again this is no one’s fault. I go where I’m needed. But I feel cheated in life and feel like I deserve more. I look at my past and remember how happy I was when I had direction. But now life feels like a waste. Because I know I can ramble I’ll stop here. But these are my truths. I’m not in the mood for optimism or self-help coaching, this is spiritual and honestly only God can help me. Now THAT I am very aware of.

I tell you all this because I know there is an “A” is for Awesome coming my way, and I can only get there if I walk this season out. There’s no running in this season for me. I remember having a hip flexer injury in high school because of a growth spurt. I was growing too fast.  I had to sit out for a week and couldn’t participate in track practices or meets. Oh I was so mad. I couldn’t run?  I had to walk around and watch everyone else enjoy what I loved so much. And that’s where I am. Dealing with the root anger will one day bring me joy, just like dealing with the healing of my hip flexer injury helped me to have an excellent season.

I’m not angry because “I am this way”, there was a season for that, but I’m this way because “I’m angry”. That bothers me.

Do you see the difference? There was a time where I focused on what was wrong with me, not knowing I was angry.  I have an anger problem right now. The issues can only be solved if the root is dealt with. I pray that we can allow God to deal with our roots so we can live in purpose and on on purpose. Be courageous sis. Don’t be afraid to face what God brings to the surface of your life. Blurt it out! Laugh at it and walk through the process of healing.  One day we can say thank you God for helping me through that season.

I love you!

The Ugly Season 

🐛 We all have a ugly phases in life. Even the most beautiful people in life. Mine was 6th  to 7th grade. Now for all my optimistic people, maybe I should say “rough”, but since its my blog… 😊. Middle School was an ugly season for me. I didn’t know how to smile. I was scrawny and lanky. Long hair was in and I didn’t have much…until I discovered weave. I’d just added me one single piece to the back and called it a day.  Boys teased me almost every day. I absolutely hated it. I wasn’t sure in who I wanted to be. I was picked on for being a church girl. This stopped around 7th grade when I began to play sports. I got out of my tomboy phase my sophomore year…finally! My body of course changed into a beautiful athletic build, boys gave me attention, and sports gave me a reason to hold my head up. It’s been over 20 years, and I hadn’t felt like that…until this season  of my life. 

Age 37, overweight, searching for purpose. The enemy constantly teasing and accusing. Just the other day I said, “God, I never felt so ugly, so hopeless, and useless.” Now,  I’m not just talking about the lack of beauty, but in the sense of feeling. I feel…unpleasant while everything around me says “beauty”. 

How Does God Respond? 

While walking my puppy,  she discovers that her favorite tree has taken on some new friends. I quickly yank her away not knowing what they were at first. But at closer glance, they were only caterpillars. In which I think are ugly. So I take a picture and post it saying, “Sick 😝🤢“. I thought everyone would agree, but people begin to tell stories only of beauty. This automatically made me feel bad. Am I so consumed with what I feel is a “Ugly Season” that everything around me is now ugly? As a precious friend explained,

I remembered what I had told God the day before.  He heard me, probably laughed or smiled. He loves me enough to send imagery and wisdom from others. That’s my God. Opening my eyes to His reality.  

Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. Ecclesiastes 3:11

What a beautiful scripture. Encouragement for those going through the “ugly season”, rough patch, or process. There is a promise on the other side. May God give you a reason to hold your head up high.🦋 

I See You

I see you Angel. I see you and I ask “What happened to the sparkle in your eyes?” I see you and I ask, “What happened to that innocent smile?” Pain has pierced you. Rejection has ripped you. But you are still here. And I say, “I see you.” Yes, people have used you. Some may have abused you, but YOU Are Still Here. Some think they know you, others have ignored you, but YOU ARE STILL HERE! And I see you!!! I see you through God’s eyes. I see you through broken dreams. I see you through heartache and I see you through unseen tears. I see you! 

You are STRONG and you are SIGNIFICANT! You are PURE and you are PERSISTENT!  You are CARING and you are very very COURAGEOUS!  You always know how to bounce back! You are a Finisher and you are a Warrior. You were born to win…born in a womb of VICTORY! I SEE YOU!!! You have always been there! 😊 

#FreedomFridays 


God says you are worth it! Knowing your worth gives you new eyes to see. Knowing your worth breaks every lie the enemy has spoken over you and keeps you out of sabotaging relationships. Know that your true worth is found with Christ in God. Take His paths towards finding value! #ItsWorthIt

Scroll Control

I have been reluctant to blog about this, but I was encouraged to share. 😝 I want to be faithful to my blog name… The Journey 2GetHer (To Get Her). I’m really on this journey to find out ALL that I am in Christ. And I’ve made many adjustments in my life. Now, I’ve attempted this journey before, but this is the most consistent I’ve been in it… With the Lord’s help of course. God changed my location…lol! I’ve changed my diet… I am now a practicing Vegetarian. I now have an actual schedule. I’m still working on that budget…halfway there. I workout 4-5 times a week (a miracle). And I have put myself on “Scroll Control”

Scroll Control? 

What the heck is Scroll Control. Well in the season I am in, I don’t have a lot of things I am desiring. I noticed, maybe two months…or three…ago, that a sistah was getting frustrated, angry, jealous, and overly…well, judgemental(that took me a while to type out) as I scrolled through social media. Though I didn’t post about it, but inwardly I did! I mean I felt like God was being so mean to me, not letting me have what I wanted, but noooooooo, He’s giving it to everyone else, and that wasn’t fair. And when I say judgemental, I’d say things like: “Aww, heck naw, she’s getting married? God, she’s like 13!”, or  “What the heck! God, she’s getting married again? Can I have a stinkin turn? Dang!” or “Alright, now this ain’t fair! They ain’t even married, and they get to have babies?” 😳😒 So yeah, that’s the truth. And I’m not that proud to admit it. I wasn’t mad at the peoole, just the situation. Especially when they weren’t happening to me. But that also showed the areas I needed to grow up in. 👀

So something had to change, and change fast. So I put myself on Scroll Control. I completely got off of my favorite… Instagram, and I was only allowed to get on Facebook to check Messages, Post on my page, or scroll only on my page. No Scrolling down my news feed or going on anyone else’s page. (Yes, I could respond to who tags me).  It’s a cure to comparison I tell you that! I miss seeing what people are up too, but it even shows me who my real friends are. 😁 Seriously, who’s calling to check up on me?  I’ve also had the chance to actually call others, rather than scroll and “like”. It’s  been a mental blessing too.

So, anyways, yeah that’s “Scroll Control”… Highly recommended… Father approved. I’m learning to appreciate myself and where God has me. Comparison is a death trap. So though these days it’s not the norm, try it. It’ll change your life!

#FreedomFridays 

Do something different. Currently I am making adjustments in my life. One of those things are consistency in working out regularly. For two weeks I have worked out 4-5 times a week. Today God said, “How about going running?” And of course I didn’t want to, but lately I have sensed a calling to trust over my life. Meaning if God suggests it…I do it! That includes becoming a vegetarian. He knows why, and I don’t have to know why. Following this has transformed me not just physically but spiritually. There’s freedom in being obedience and trusting God… AND freedom in switching things up and doing something different. I highly recommend it! Plus it shows everyone around me that I love Him! 😊

But I do as the Father has commanded me, so that the world may know that I love the Father. Rise, let us go from here. – John 14:31